There were few generals in the Civil War that were more highly regarded by those in their army than Major General James Birdseye McPherson. He was a young man in his 30s commanding an army, and he was a favorite of both Generals Grant and Sherman.
I have come upon the following article about the woman that General McPherson was to marry, Emily Hoffman of Baltimore.
I do not know if Miss Hoffman's family members were as mean spirited as the article claims. But if they truly cared for her, they would not have wanted to see her devastated by the event.
General McPherson had a very similar death to that of General Philip Kearney, which took place at Chantilly in 1862. In both cases, the generals rode in among Confederates, were ordered to surrender, and instead turned their horses and tried to flee. Both men were shot in the back and killed.
In the case of General Kearny, he was killed at night in a rainstorm, and Confederate General D.H. Hill approached his body on the ground. General Hill looked at the fallen man by the light of a lantern and exclaimed: "You've killed Phil Kearny. He deserved a better fate than to die in the mud." The next day, General Kearny's body, along with his horse and his gear, was sent through the Union lines with a note of condolence written by General Lee.
I feel certain that there were some West Pointers in the Confederate Army that were saddened by the death of General McPherson. Those who had served together before the war had a bond that in many cases could not be broken, even by having to go to war against each other.
I know little of the life of Emily Hoffman, but she was apparently one of millions that have loved soldiers throughout the ages. When a soldier is lost, it almost always has an impact on other lives. He was almost always the husband, father, son, brother, or friend of other persons living at that time. The event can have a profound effect on the lives of others for a very long time.
EDITING: The following source (Scroll down to section on McPherson) contains a statement by Confederate General John Bell Hood expressing sadness over the death of General McPherson. General Hood was not only a classmate of General McPherson's at West Point, but also a personal friend and roommate.
Biographies of Men of Mark in Maryland -Richard Curzon Hoffman (1839- 1926) was the youngest child of Samuel and Elizabeth Hoffman. He was a Confederate soldier and later a prominent businessman. This article also explains more about how the Hoffman family came to America and prospered.